"She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her" - Proverbs 31:27-28
One of the challenges couples face in a committed relationship is keeping the relationship fresh. There are so many activities and actions we participate in while dating this person that simply fall by the wayside once the rings are on the fingers. We planned creative dates, we did things for them to show affection and thoughtfulness. We listened and engaged.
Once a couple settles into married life, the family grows, and the responsibilities of parenting enter the picture, those thoughtful acts can be limited to special occasions or a knee-jerk reaction to a complaining spouse who feels neglected and ignored. Most of the time, when neglect and ignoring continue, the marriage is in serious trouble and bad habits dig a hole that are really hard to get out of.
Now, being comfortable with another human has its advantages, but we should never be so comfortable with our spouses that we withhold thoughtfulness. Little acts of service can go a long way. Doing something without being asked or reminded shows thoughtfulness. Looking for ways to compliment each other shows you value your spouse’s giftedness, because let’s face it, we see what we’re looking for. Give up some time just to engage in conversation with your spouse. Continuing to be thoughtful in your marriage builds intimacy and provides an environment of security for one another.
TRY IT: What is something your spouse constantly asks you to do? Beat them to the punch by doing it before they ask.